Expectations

I found something that I wrote a while back today and thought it was interesting. Friendship is very important to me. With that said, I want to be a good one really bad. These are ten expectations I have of myself as a friend. These are also qualities I hope to find in those I surround myself with.

1. Fun to be around. You probably wouldn't be friends without this. On some level you enjoy the same things. They make you laugh in big and small ways. You enjoy each others company and want to spend time around each other. You will be adventurous in your own ways.

2. Supportive. Your interested in what they are interested in. They will help you become the person that you wanat to be and help you achieve your goals. They know what is important to you and will not put you at risk of losing those things. They are there for you as you make big life decisions.

3. Up Front & Trustworthy. They will not gossip about you or ruin your reputation. They will stick up for you first and questions you later. They will come to you directly with their concerns. They will not lie to you.

4. Devoted. They are not fickle. They will be your friend no matter the circumstances. They rejoice when you rejoice and mourn when you mourn. They are consistent. They will not be dismissive of you.

5. Encouraging. When you are down they help pick you up. When they see a positive quality in you they let you know, and help feed the quality to help it grow. They believe in you and are your biggest cheerleader. When you fail, they tell you to try again or that life goes on.

6. Honest. They don't have to share all the details, but they are generally forthcoming with what is going on in their life. They are clear about their intentions. They want to share the issues and events in their life with you. If something doesn't seem right they are willing to be the one to call you out.

7. Pay Attention. They will never be able to fully understand you but they notice when you are upset, hurt, sad, joyful, annoyed, scared, happy, and so much more. They pay attention to what you have to say. They know what is going on in you life and how it affects you.

8. Flexible. They understand that you are going to change over time and are willing to stick with you as it happens. They will communicate when they are unhappy with you and be patient as you try to change.

9. Mindful. They will make sure to find a way to let you know that they care. They will know what is going on in your life and be interested in it. They will show you in the big and small things that you are important.

10. Accepting. They are patient with you when you make mistakes. They learn how to forgive you when you mess up. They love you at your best and your worst. They know that you are learning and growing and want to help. They want to stick around to see the results.